Soon it will be Christmas and Three Kings Day. The gifts will gradually be placed around the Christmas tree. The children will make their wish letters and look forward to the arrival of Santa Claus or the Three Wise Men. The atmosphere is impregnated with the dazzling brightness of children's eyes and the echo of their laughter.
A gift is a language, according to Gary Chapman, author of the book The Five Languages of Love in Children. It is one of the five languages identified by the author. Each person is different and responds to a particular language.
It does not mean that you should leave your children without gifts this Christmas, it is about knowing your child and that, in turn, he or she knows and expresses what makes him or her happy, in exchange with his family and loved ones.
- Words of affirmation. The power of words is immense. The motivating words point to the positive; the "scolding" words exalt the error. The words of affirmation from a good place imply empathy for the other person and that you are putting yourself "in their shoes." It is important to speak to children with words they can understand.
- Quality time. It means undivided attention in that moment chosen between children and parents. Share, from the heart, some quality activity and "venture" to find others that promote quality time and union. Ask yourself "why" and "for what."
- Receive gifts. From this perspective, the gift is a symbol that reflects a thought for our children. The monetary value of that gift is not relevant; The highlight is the relation between the thought and the gift that you will give with love to your children. Give your children your presence, they will know how to value and love it.
- Acts of service. It means doing things for your children that you know they like; The important thing is that there is reciprocity. This can be instilled in the children so that there is an exchange, and that the activities are carried out with love rather than obligation, since "asking" is not the same as "demanding."
- Physical touch. Physical contact from a good place, is a powerful communicator of love. It is important to recognize when kids need a hug and provide them with the necessary assertiveness so that they can communicate their need for a “cuddle”.
The cultivation of these languages is not only for Christmas. It is a constant practice of knowledge and dedication from goodness, tolerance and love.
Ameyali school wishes you happy holidays in the company of your loved ones and that this season is part of the countless great moments that your children will have.